I have been a fan of New Year’s Resolutions for many years now. I have learnt that you need 3 things in order for the resolution to stick:
1 – The New Year’s Resolution needs to be something that you want to do, and continue doing. For example, seeing old friends.
2 – The New Year’s Resolution must be specific, particularly in amount and frequency. Like seeing old friends for a few hours twice a week.
3 – You need to be realistic. If you try to do too much, you will probably have a hard time keeping it up, and eventually give up. Continuing our example, how about reducing it to seeing different local friends twice a month.
If you keep these in mind when picking a New Year’s Resolution, it is likely that you will actually follow through this year. If you have a partner, friend, or family member, try sharing the resolution. That way the burden of remembering to do it, and carrying it out, is spread out. But remember, now you both need to consider the 3 things noted above. Again with the same example, you can pick and set up one encounter with an old friend per month, and your partner can pick and set up the other one. This way, your chances of success is now quite high.
Here are some resolutions that I have used in the past:
No added salt for dinner.
Meditation 5 minutes, 3 times a week.
Running 3 times a week for 15 minutes.
Believe it or not, 2 of these stuck, and have become part of my daily routine.
In contrast, here are some of my New Years Resolutions that were doomed to fail:
Losing weight (too vague)
Exercising 1 hour a day (too much to start with)
Eat only healthy food (too vague, too much, and who wants to do that?)
So what does this have to do with complicity? Well, it involves change, and that is what we are trying to do. Starting slow and with low personal impact will help you succeed, which will encourage you later on. Also, eating badly, for example, can be considered being complicit, as we often make the excuse that “I’m not as bad as some people I know.” That is the root of complicity. Just because everyone else does it, or does not do it, is no excuse. You say that to children, and it applies here. Breaking this pattern, in any way, will help you in your future goals.
Another thing is that by improving your health, mood, social situation, etc, you will likely want to better yourself in other ways.
So, choose something fun or meaningful, and start specifically, slow and steady.
Please let us know your New Year’s Resolution in the Comments